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«hold off, Is it a night out together?» period Two FINALE: cross country Crushes with Elise Bauman | Autostraddle

Dearly cherished, we are gathered here today to get through this thing known as… a period finale! Yes, it’s real, the episode signifies the end of absolutely the smash hit which was S2 of

Hold Off, Is This A Night Out Together?

And also to commemorate that finishing, exactly who far better to seriously and discuss the joys and positive results of an extended length crush, than actor and queer person Elise Bauman? You might acknowledge Elise from Lifetime’s delightful queer Christmas time rom-com which come out just last year,

Beneath The Christmas Time Tree
,

but around these areas, she’s got another name this is certainly nearly as vaunted: Drew’s sweetheart! Yes, that is correct, this gleaming twosome ended up being birthed from the great queer custom: the cross country crush.

Exactly what could it be concerning the long distance crush definitely so attracting queers all over the world? Could it possibly be the relative scarcity of like-minded queers surrounding you? Perhaps the power to flirt long distance takes a few of the force off? The 3 of us get into the whole thing, AND Drew and Elise share some possibly also lovely facts about their unique union!

As well as there clearly was a game title! Recently, I make Drew play the game that simply took more than Twitter and Tiktok for a few momentary weeks: «They can be a 10 but…» It is a very good time, all over!


SHOW NOTES

+ Follow Elise on
Twitter
and
IG
!

+
Study Drew’s meeting with Jinx Monsoon
!

+ View

Bend it Like Beckham
,

it still rocks!

+ Johnny Sibilly’s legs tend to be… certainly very powerful!


+ will likely Shortz is actually title from the NYT Crossword publisher!

*the more you know*



EPISODE


Elise

: immediately after which we got off the cellphone, and then we both hopped throughout the phone two seconds later we are like, «and so the edge is shut, we’re legally banned to truly get across the line.»


Christina

: i am talking about, leading among certainly one of my favorite voice memos and even messages I got from Drew, i can not bear in mind which form it came in, it had been like, «I made this plan and from now on the borders are closed.» Yeah.


Elise

: Yeah, it had been a proper second.



[theme track plays]


Drew

: Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina

: And I Also’m Christina.


Drew

: And this is

Wait, Is It A Night Out Together?


Christina

:

Hold Off, Is This A Romantic Date?

is actually an Autostraddle podcast delivered by me having the giggles, and question which on everybody’s lip area, wait, was this a romantic date?


Drew

: we are at the conclusion of all of our 2nd period, and I also believe we resolved it, i do believe.


Christina

: Yeah, i believe i am only bringing large finale fuel, like whenever comedies used to be before a business audience, and everyone would walk in so there was one hour of applause given that it was actually like, oahu is the last, that’s the way I’m experiencing. Though as obvious, not one person has actually applauded me personally however, hateful. Thank you, thank-you. Today personally i think loved and presented. Drew, who happen to be you?


Drew

: Oh wow, forgot about this component.


Christina

: Yeah, proper?


Drew:

Maybe season three I’ll obtain the intros. I’m Drew Gregory, i’m a writer for Autostraddle, a filmmaker, a queer trans woman. You know what, In my opinion if we do another season I would like to have an enjoyable one I throw in right at the end.


Christina

: Ooh, something spicy, you intend to jazz it up?


Drew

: Yeah, I don’t have anything today though.


Christina

: Okay, leave all of them wanting even more, I think which is fantastic.


Drew

: Yeah, yeah, yeah.


Christina

: Im Christina Tucker, Im also an author at Autostraddle, in addition to internet most importantly. A podcaster, a to gay black lady, and an individual who’s sensation very flashy listed here on this subject mid-day.


Drew

: Great, I’m truly grateful that you are jazzy and I’m spicy, or perhaps I’m planning for the chance that at some point I’ll be spicy.


Christina

: Yes you’re like, I am not sure, the first half of the film Dune, the spice should come. Cool research, ladies, she is unmarried. Anyhow, i really do have a game title for people to play with this hollowed day’s our very own finale.


Drew

: Incredible.


Christina

: This Is Actually The traditional, and also by classic After All a game that overran the net and TikTok for a couple weeks, «They’re a 10, but…»


Drew

: Ah, great.


Christina

: today Drew, i’ll set-out some soil guidelines available, because i am aware you love a followup question.


Drew

: Great.


Christina

: As I say they may be a 10, they’re a 10 to you personally by any means that really matters to you personally, that would be actually, that would be psychologically, this is just people you think is actually a 10, okay?


Drew

: Okay, fine, thanks.


Christina

: I do n’t have any circumstances for just what more you within individual have now been performing inside matchmaking life, you’re only going to have to go together with your instinct and decide.


Drew

: Cool.


Christina

: All right?


Drew

: Yes.


Christina

: we will put where make that clear, here we get. They may be a 10, nonetheless clap after jet places.


Drew

: I always decided everyone was as well dramatic with this, where it is like they can be a 10 and therefore thing means they are choose a two, seriously.


Christina

: Yes.


Drew

: and so i’m likely to nevertheless give a pretty reasonable eight.


Christina

: Yeah, i do believe that is reasonable. I do believe eight is the proper level of cringe treatment for the little activity. All right, that is an excellent start. Okay, they truly are a nine nevertheless they never text you initially.


Drew

: And I cannot ask followup questions?


Christina

: No, no, no.


Drew

: thus I can’t ask, really would they content me when I text? I’d state a five.


Christina

: Yeah, not texting first actually, which is crude.


Drew

: Ever is unusual.


Christina

: That’s rough material. All right, they truly are a five even so they drive one to every errand you’ve ever endured to perform.


Drew

: that is really nice, but i really could usually… If there have been five, we’ll offer him a six.


Christina

: Sure, sure. But I’m sure you adore a solo jaunt anyway, you adore an errand run.


Drew

:What i’m saying is nowadays my girl Elise performed drive me to an errand, and that I ended up being very thankful, however, if that was the single thing she did we wouldn’t be in a relationship, which was simply an additional bit wonderful extra.


Christina

: i believe which is reasonable.


Drew

: Yeah.


Christina

: fine, they are a seven but they only pretend to read your projects.


Drew

: begin to see the element of that that bothers me personally may be the pretend.


Christina

: Pretending, we realized it might be.


Drew

: it isn’t the not reading it. When they failed to read could work it really is like, I’m not that, I’d be just a little, it is like never ever? But it is okay, i possibly could get over it. Nonetheless they lie in my opinion about this is really what’s strange for me, to ensureshould go lower to a three.


Christina

: Yeah, proper, correct. These are typically a three nonetheless get access to the criterion closet.


Drew

: And would I have you to go?


Christina

: while get access, you benefit from that accessibility, yes.


Drew

: I could have a good fling thereupon six.


Christina

: i believe you could. It had been a three, but yeah, you’re slamming it to a six.


Drew

: No, no, no, that’s what I’m claiming, i am slamming it to a six.


Christina

: Gotcha, gotcha. I love that. They are an eight but their buddies are right.


Drew

: Okay, there is some discourse about this, because i do believe there was clearly a you will need help. In my opinion We maybe was from the opposing side of all of Autostraddle team just who mentioned that it’s okay to only have direct buddies. I wish to claim that it really is okay, it’s just not the life I lead. All straight friends, that is going to choose a-two.


Christina

: Yeah, i’ll need trust you on that one, i might simply believe it is only a little unpleasant, perplexing.


Drew

: All directly friends?


Christina

: Yeah.


Drew

: If they’re not used to queerness and therefore are wanting to fulfill even more queer men and women, that’s different than if they’re a well established period queer that’s like, do you know what? I really like becoming the only lesbian in my own friend gang of straight individuals.


Christina

: Yeah, i might feel the in an identical way whether or not it ended up being a dark individual who had been like, «I don’t have any dark pals,» i might end up like, «what’s happening there?» Internally.


Drew

: We’re not in a system sitcom, we can’t have a token individual.


Christina

: you should not function as token, you should not do that to your self. All right, we’ve three more. They might be a seven nonetheless spend-all their particular leisure time at the gym, continuously strength training top to bottom. I don’t know what individuals do in the gym.


Drew

: their free-time. I suppose it depends on which counts as free time. I’ll state a five.


Christina

: Yeah.


Drew

: we’ll bump all of them straight down two.


Christina

: Bump all of them down.


Drew

: But that’s okay. I suppose this will depend mostly personally, that I’m maybe not asking a take question, i am keeping five, however it depends if you ask me what truly matters as time.


Christina

: Certain.


Drew

: Can we view movies collectively, or venture out to consume, usually time? Is not operate time sparetime, or is it like as soon as we don’t have other pursuits?


Christina

: we listen to you, I listen to you.


Drew

: But we’ll stay with five.


Christina

: okay. They truly are six, but their mom is hotter than they might be.


Drew

: Oh, I don’t know to move up or down.


Christina

: i am aware, right?


Drew

: I don’t consider I could ever date some one for their… It is like if I’m perhaps not interested in someone in the first place, I’m not likely likely to be online dating all of them.


Christina

: Right.


Drew

: I’m not gonna be like, well, they could develop into their particular hot mother. I believe I would say that they’re nevertheless a six, I’m just likely to perhaps not call them and I’m planning to call their own mother.


Christina

: Yeah, personally i think like it’s as you remain the exact same, but maybe I hang out along with you a little more than I would to be able-


Drew

: that is a beneficial point.


Christina

: to have some mother time. I don’t think you transform.


Drew

: i did so something really terrible that we still feel terribly in regards to, and is that someone questioned me personally out, and this also was actually once I was in university, and I was not interested, therefore I was actually obvious about this, I happened to be obvious I wasn’t curious. Then again she wished to end up being pals, and I also could tell that she mentioned she wished to end up being pals however it ended up being coming from destination-


Christina

: She ended up being wanting.


Drew

: Yeah. Nevertheless the thing is all the woman friends were actually hot and cool, and so I did always been the woman buddy to spend time together buddies. I didn’t lay about my purposes usually, it nonetheless was not the best thing Used to do as a 20 year old.


Christina

: after all sadly it simply reminds me personally of the episode of

Sex and the City

in which Carrie’s dating, It’s my opinion its Justin Theroux, in which he sucks, but their household rocks, and she’s like, i will try this for a bit. I’m like, yeah, completely, who cannot.


Drew

: Carrie wasn’t attempting to attach with his household, which is the difference, but you know what? It is okay, all of us are great.


Christina

: A hookup will appear like everything, I’m always stating that.


Drew

: That’s an extremely fantastic point.


Christina

: Your final any, is a three but provides a coastline house.


Drew

: I’m planning to state an annoying phrase, but we decided to go to NYU.


Christina

: Horrible to say.


Drew

: something which sucks about me personally, which it is browsing appear to be a modest boast, since it is in fact most likely good personality characteristic, but it sucks as one checking out the globe. We went along to a college that is filled with wealthy people who have all kinds of awesome coastline houses, as well as these other items, and I also only turned into pals with folks have been indeed there on scholarships. Not simply, but mostly, we surely, I didn’t socialize with people who had coastline residences.


Christina

: You Probably Didn’t use.


Drew

: Yeah, therefore I believe if they are a three nevertheless they have actually a coastline residence, they can be most likely a two. The simple fact… I’m not sure.


Christina

: Yeah, you only can not make that step to work well with the sick coastline residence minute.


Drew

: No, it sucks. Exactly what I’m actually wanting is my buddies that happen to be fairly down-to-earth, good individuals, progressively of those are simply just planning continue to have that brand-new money following get coastline houses, and then i will be able to hang out with my great buddies and be at a beach house. This is the fantasy where i possibly could obtain the coastline residence.


Christina

: this is the dream after the day, it’s brand-new cash and a coastline house, that is all we’re selecting. You heard it here 1st folks.


Drew

: I favor brand-new money.


Christina

: Love new money.


Drew

: Love brand-new money. Yeah, that has been a delight. I would in fact, I would truly already been willing to perform that online game since it had been something on TikTok, therefore thank you in making my ambitions be realized.


Christina

: I thought it will be an enjoyable someone to perform, also it was really fun to create them.


Drew

: Well, should we move on to all of our major phase with the week, and that is slipping for folks who inhabit different places. And is different than cross country connections, because long-distance connections will start really into an union, they are able to keep on into an union, this is the desire that queer individuals have to consider their particular place which they stay and get, no, I’m not likely to flirt with one of these individuals, i’ll go on instagram.com in order to find a person that resides extremely far off. And now we have actually a, I know we usually state a very special visitor, but for myself that is a very special visitor. Want to introduce your self?


Elise

: i’d want to introduce me. In the morning I the unique guest?


Drew

: you may be, yes.


Christina

: child, however.


Elise

: Great, wow, amazing. I’m Elise Bauman, i am a star, i am a queer person, and that I’m right here today because I’m sleeping with among the many hosts.


Christina

: imagine which?


Elise

: Yeah, the remainder podcast is simply the market trying decipher which host I’m sleeping with. I really like that, it really is like a murder mystery but-


Christina

: there is no solution to understand.


Elise

: there isn’t any solution to know. Yeah, performs this generate me personally a nepotism baby? Is the way the business really works.


Christina

: Yes, that’s how sector really works, girl.


Elise

: cool, nice.


Christina

: this will be it.


Elise

: Wow, maybe I could get a lifetime career from this.


Christina

: Fingers crossed for you personally.


Elise

: Nepo infant to position, wow, fantastic. I’ve always wished to be a nepo baby.


Christina

: i am very happy.


Drew

: Yeah, I happened to be only browsing point out that for people who don’t know, really I am just destroying the murder puzzle of it all, but Elise and that I come in a connection, and performed begin relationship throughout pandemic, and Elise lives in Toronto, and I are now living in la, which are in reality various towns, and therefore are indeed in almost any countries.


Elise

: they’re certainly, these are generally without a doubt.


Christina

: And Drew, not to imply you moved against your instinct, but i really do feel as if you’re generally someone who claims, precisely why bother with an extended length time? Discover individuals here I can date, why do this to yourself? You are sure that it will likely be tough, you realize it will be hard, exactly why do this? But here you will be.


Drew

: See, that’s fascinating, because I believe like i liked for a bit of both, i simply think i did not grab the cross country people maybe as severely.


Christina

: perhaps that’s it, yeah.


Drew

: But i usually liked a long length flirt.


Christina

: Correct.


Drew

: i really believe this just stored heading. Once we started-


Elise

: Therefore, the answer, Drew, wasn’t that I found myself just irresistible and it also was actually personal in my opinion, and that it was actually really certain in my experience that I found myself simply amazingly irresistible which means you merely smashed all your principles and you stated, «i must have that certain.»


Drew

: after all its kind of the clear answer in an extended good sense. In the same way that it simply kept going on. Following the friends associated with the pod, Mal Blum and Gab Dunn, exactly who we regularly accept, as some of you may already know, I would always be like, I’d end up being attempting to date folks during pandemic in Los Angeles therefore the surrounding regions of L. A.. And then they’d create fun of myself because i’d sometimes you need to be love, «i am talking about, i possibly could merely just be sure to date Elise Bauman.» I found myself usually, «What i’m saying is, {this person|this i